It took me a long time to finally think of something to write as my first post in this thing,Then it hit me,why don't I actually WRITE about what this whole blog is about.
I have been looking for an Asian guy for awhile now. I honestly like Asian guys. Like,REALLY like them. I like every kind and from every nationality. I think they are gorgeous. If I found a good enough one I would probably marry him lol. Though I have noticed a few drawbacks to this plan :
1.) Almost all Asians are OBSESSED with perfection. Now,I am not a whale. I am far from a whale,but I am a size 12. I am kinda on the chunky side. I think I look good. My weight is distributed nicely and I have a huge ass and boobs. I think I am one sexy chick. Though,when reading all these things about how Asian guys want girls with like size 2 waist lines,I get a bit discouraged.I don't have perfect hair,Mine is reddish and fluffy and super curly. I don't have perfect skin,perfect teeth,or a perfect body. I get blemishes,I have bad hair days and crabby mornings where my face is blotted and funny looking. I don't know how all these expectations can be PUT on these women,Asian or not,because NO ONE is like that. This is america,here a Asian can get just as fat as a white person. We are all equal bits of imperfection here.
(P.S.Oh and how do you expect women to stay skinny and in shape when you let YOURSELF go when you come here? Yeh,I am talking to you,you demanding fatty Asian Bastards.You guys look like you ate a whole other person and then you have the balls to be like "well I don't want you to get fat,honey" Come on,really?!-__-)
I have dated a few Asian guys,and they didn't mind me,so I guess that maybe some of them are different. Its just that they are difficult to find. Its so HARD to believe somethings exist if you see constant things that prove otherwise.
2.) Asian men are almost always after other Asians.
I don't know if it is because of the cultural differences or the RIDICULOUS notion that white women don't like Asian guys. It is true though,We have hundreds and THOUSANDS of single Asian men who WHINE about how they never get any women of a different race and then chase after Asian women who now a days are doing the exact thing they should be doing. Chasing Foreign tail! They are doing it right! Be confident! You are sexy! If you see a girl you like APPROACH HER! Men always complain we want them to be mind readers,but we are oblivious too. Its a self destructing cycle that leads NOWHERE. SO grow some balls! Stand up! The worst that could happen is rejection. What do you have to lose,really? I as a white woman,would welcome the challenge of a cultural gap. If I had a Korean Bf I would learn Korean a Chinese BF, Mandarin or Cantonese. Simple as that. It is hard but not impossible. So,stop making it seem so bloody Impossible!
3.) A lot of Asian men seem to be under the impression that the ONLY Asian guys That people like are the Pretty kpop boys or assume that because they are from a particulate culture that people EXPECT certain things out of them.
This is Something else I also find COMPLETELY ridiculous.Asians are not some rare breed of dog or something,you don't have to have the "Best in show". Do any of you ever stop to think that all those so called "Idols" are probably nothing like what they are on TV? Did yall stop to think that maybe under all that make up that they have dark bags from late nights? Acne from sweating so much on stage? WHY do you model your ideals after someone that doesn't even REALLY exist? I am not going to lie, I LOVE kpop. It is almost all I listen to,but I don't expect my men to be that way. I have seen fat Asians, Skinny Asians, Asians that are whiter than me,and some that are practicably black. They come in all shapes and sizes,cultures and backgrounds. How can you expect to find such a singular thing in such Diversity? Its crazy,completely crazy. Also,do you know that when you expect something like that,it puts pressure on Asian men to fit it? And when they don't it hurts their self esteem? I truly hate when things are like that. Its the same with women. Its just..Insane.
4.) Almost all American women are Disrespectful Hoe-Nuggets.
I hate that that is the truth,but it is. We American women get Knocked up,Cheat,Sleep around and fight and bitch for no god damn reason,and our reputation has reflected what people from diffrent places think of us. Alot of guys from other countries assume that just because we are american we are slutty,which lets face it,is probably almost ALWAYS the case. Its not a bad thing if all you are looking for is a lay,but when you actually WANT a relationship, that's where it becomes. We as Americans are the known as the most disrespectful people in any culture. We do what we like how we like and we do not care about the people it touches as long as we are satisfied. So of course people from other cultures hear of this kind of reputation. So,answer me this? Would YOU marry that? Or take them home to meet your family? Exactly. You wouldn't.
5.) EVERYONE IS LOOKING FOR THE ELUSIVE ASIAN.
Since Asians are becoming more and more prominent in american society be it through Emigration statistics or the damn Oppa Gangnam Style shippers( I HATE them Btw),the interest in Asia is growing,and so too are the Asian stereotypes and the demand for asians to fit some ideal. With all these people expecting so much out of Asians,of COURSE they are ELUSIVE. I would be too. With all these people all looking for something from them,and not giving them anything in return. They will probably stay that way.
So as a conclusion to this little rant I would like to say : Everyone needs to get their shit together. We whine about change but never do anything TO change it. The only way to find the Elusive Asian,is to help him feel comfortable enough to come out on his own. :)
~always opinionated,
Katlyn.
